My Friend a Lesbian

I am a heterosexual woman who has recently gone through the experience of discovering that my best friend of eight years standing is a lesbian.

My girlfriend is a 'closed' lesbian; she cannot yet find the personal strength to openly declare her sexuality. Her problem is centered on her relationships with her mother (who could never accept it), and with her closest friends.

Her reaction to me was immediately defensive once she had told me - it was as though she had steeled herself for a rejection on my part. Luckily, we are close enough, and love each other enough, to maintain our former relationshp, and for it to grow in a better direction.

My friend is not a raving sexual deviant. She is a woman who has had enough insight to understand her sexuality and enough guts to accept the lifestyle she wants - without having to bow to conformity and social pressure.

So you people who so blatantly condemn someone else's sexuality - consider how 'natural' your approach to social norms is, and decide who has really come to terms with themselves.