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Salient. Special. Vol. XVII, No. 17. September 1st, 1953

Dating

Dating.

In our habits of "dating." If I may use an Americanism, and our attitudes to it we have also much to learn. We are apt to monopolise each other most unfairly. When a woman has been out a few times with one man she is frequently "stuck" and con look forward to few other invitations. The man will be landed "with her, and almost get a guilt complex in the process of shaking her off . . . and so a happy friendship is often spoilt. We cannot however really eliminate our dating tangles until we abolish "apartheid." Only then will we date naturally and Just as we feel inclined within a large circle of good friends, and also outside it There will be no sexual-undertone in every invitation, to be weighed and considered, and discussed ad nauseum by every girl with a dozen others in hostel bathrooms, bedrooms and dining-halls. I remind our readers again at this point, that I am not painting a Utopian scene, but aspiring for a slate of affairs that is regarded as normal by European students. Of course all this would not work here at once. Attitudes are not easily eradicated . . . but they can be. As things are to-day the sexes have, very little chance of getting to know each other in a natural environment only children, who have spent their lives in occluded boarding or day either shun sex or dive in and hope for the best, with disastrous results.